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THE WHEEL OF BUSINESS AND LIFE, UPW LONDON 2018

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May, a month of Holidays, snipp days, short weeks, the first hot summer days. Challenging times when it comes to balancing work and life, in whatever direction your balance may tend to weigh. Are you the one working too much? Or the one lacking focus? The one stressing out?

As a business owner, I felt as if my wheel of business was not running as smooth as I want it to. So I decided to stop for a minute. To invest in my own development. To think about what I want to get out of work and life. To set my goals sharp again. To simply feel how it feels to be as successful as I want to be. To reshift my focus from fears to wants. To reconnect to the passion that led to me starting my business more than 5 years ago.

That is when I decided to join Tony Robbins in London

Here is my story.

Tony Robbins’ UPW, Unleash the Power Within at ExCel London, a place where the impossible becomes possible, a life changing experience, an event after which your life will never be the same. Thinking bigger. Pushing the limits. Imagining the impossible. A journey towards creating a life that overflows with lasting success and fulfilment while increasing awareness of your physical health and how it affects many aspects of how you live. That is the promise made. The expectation you have when entering together with 13.000 other souls from 67 countries. People of all ages and walks of life. An event that is translated live into 7 languages, with only one goal: taking the lives of all those people to the next level. A program to be enjoyed, and above all, to be used. A joint commitment to participate together with a new level of intensity and passion. And believe me, 13.000 people playing full out, jumping, cheering and celebrating creates a passionate level of energy right from the start.

My most important takeaways from UPW? Here they are!

 

1. It is not about changing yourself. It is about BECOMING yourself

We can’t achieve what we want and reach a sense of fulfilment if we don’t know what it is that we love, or we hate, or what drives or excites us. 13.000 people in the room, each one of them with a hunger for something more. Some of them leading a quite happy and successful life already, some of them coming to this event as the last straw to find some sense of meaning and a reason to live. Each one of them having their own WHY to attend this event. Seeking answers to questions as “what stops us from moving forward?” and “why do we do what we do?” Only to learn that we are all seeking certainty as well as uncertainty, significance, love, connection, growth and contribution. Discovering your most valued needs leading to a better understanding of the choices you make and the emotional patterns guiding you, allowing you to make different choices in the future. Not changing yourself. Becoming yourself. Using the unlimited power that resides within all of us to break limiting patterns and to shift into progress mode.

 

2. There IS an ultimate success formula

As Benjamin Disraeli said, we are not ‘creatures’ but ‘creators’ of circumstance. If you know your desired outcome (what, why, when, as specific as possible), and you know your reasons why, you must take massive action. If you continue to measure where you are, you can constantly monitor and change your approach (not your goal!). What I remember above all is that change is never a matter of ability. It is always a matter of motivation. And your why beats bravery, always. If you get enough leverage (as in reasons to change and pain when you don’t), you will find a way to interrupt your limiting patterns and reinforce a new empowering pattern until it is a habit. Sometimes all it takes is an adjustment of only 2 millimetres (think about using a golf club). The only thing you have to do is to take the first step. Put yourself in a peak state, find your passion, decide, commit and resolve, take immediate, intelligent, consistent and massive action and last but not least, be s.m.a.r.t. and honest with yourself. Close the gap between where you are and where you want to be.

 

3. Choose your PEERS wisely

You must have heard the quote by renowned businessman Jim Rohn before, saying you are the average of the five people you spend most of your time with. Take a look around you. Where are they in life? Are they happy? Are they successful? Are they physically fit? Bottom line, the people around you matter so choose them wisely and consciously. Make sure they play a higher game than you do, find people you respect and look up to and know that proximity is power. Find a team that will challenge you, not only support you. Surround yourself with people that are committed to focus on constant improvement in the seven areas of their life, being the physical body, emotions and meaning, relationships, time, work and career (or better, mission), finances, and contribution. Make sure you surround yourself with people that sow the right seeds. Take a true picture of where you really are in each area of life and make sure you get into action. Think, feel and do. Get the best tools, the best guidance (game plan, map, mentor), and focus. Where focus goes, energy flows!

 

4. RAISE your standards

In today’s world, we need to raise our standards. If your standards are poor, you don’t even get poor rewards anymore, you just get laid off. Good standards lead to poor rewards nowadays, and you need at least excellent standards to get some more or less good rewards. Truth is, what we need to do (and want) is to raise our standards to an outstanding level. Only outstanding standards lead to getting all the rewards. Think about winning the Olympics. The winner takes it all. Does that mean the rest is not good at what they do? It doesn’t. So whatever you do, make sure you raise your standards to an outstanding level. Get a coach to hold you accountable and to give you on-going strategic feedback. Keep up a daily discipline and expect more from any training than a temporary learning effect. As an executive coach I sometimes get a call from a former client saying “we need to talk I am losing my momentum here”. Let’s take on a new approach, a 30-minute call once or twice a month. Immerse yourself (go all in) and make time for spaced repetition afterwards.

 

5. Know that LIMITING BELIEFS are all around

The funny thing is, whilst travelling with my friend during the UPW event, we couldn’t stop but laughing at each others limiting beliefs all the time. It is unimaginable how many limiting beliefs we are taking with us whatever we do. Small ones, whilst waiting in the underground, whilst having dinner, etc. My most important personal belief, the limiting one, is that I need to do everything myself and that people aren’t to be trusted as much as I want them to be. So I work hard, on my own, I do tend to get lonely as a consequence, and as I don’t commit to anything I’m lacking a sense of belonging and certainty. The UPW event forced me to take a closer look at this limiting belief. I could say people have hurt me in the past, nevertheless I am the one keeping this limiting belief in place. So what am I going to do about this. One of the most powerful moments of the event for me personally was replacing your limiting belief with a new empowering one. So I am going to ask for help more often, I am going to trust people (and take a risk), I will rely on others when I get stuck (or even before). I will defy the odds. I will set a new standard. And I will step up!

 

6. Healthy CELLS are the key to a healthy BODY

This part of the UPW event came very close to my new way of living a healthy life. How the cells of our body need oxygen, water, nutrients and the ability to eliminate their own waste. How toxins tend to build up in the bloodstream through our skin, lungs, bowels and urinary tract. How we are taking in more than we can eliminate. How there is an overdose of biochemical additives and how we tend to use an overly acidic diet, all adding to the toxicity of our system. How the body responds when we put poison into our bloodstream, causing low energy, insomnia, headaches, skin issues, and much more. Starting January I have been cleansing my body on a weekly base using the Isagenix nutrition plan. So happy I did. Lost over 40 pounds already and feeling better than ever. I was able to not only lose a lot of weight, but to reset my body’s health and banish the toxins that had been building up. In my case this means moving from a weekly migraine to no headaches anymore. So let’s heal our mind and body. Let’s celebrate. Let’s reward ourselves and set ourselves up to win!

 

1. It is not about changing yourself. It is about BECOMING yourself

2. There IS an ultimate success formula

3. Choose your PEERS wisely

4. RAISE your standards

5. Know that LIMITING BELIEFS are all around

6. Healthy CELLS are the key to a healthy BODY

The above are my most important takeaways from UPW. As they are personal to me, I am looking forward to yours as well. Don’t hesitate to add your thoughts in the comment section below!

PS We are firewalkers. We can do anything. And make a change. In a heartbeat. You bitch. Raise your hand and say I if you follow ;-)

For the first time in a long time I feel 100% reconnected to myself and to my passion, able to make the difference that I aspire. As always, feel free to share your takeaways with me. Your feedback is much appreciated!

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About the author

Sofie Varrewaere is the founder of BigFish4.me and a certified Marshall Goldsmith Stakeholder Centered Coach. After studying a Master in Psychological and Pedagogical Sciences, she ogled into the magical world of Recruitment, Selection and HR Services. Working for the world leader in HR, she has always been in an advisory role in relation to the larger goals of several multinational organizations. In 2013 she started her own company in International executive Coaching. Doing what she is good at, challenging others as well as herself

For more information on the Isagenix nutrition plan: www.catchyourbigfish.isagenix.com

 

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