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We all know the drill. We’re busy. Working hard. Playing hard. Because we have this dream. The dream of a meaningful life filled with joy and happiness. We’ve learned along the way that the things that really matter usually can’t be bought. Think about love. And health. We said goodbye to too many people that we thought would be in our lives forever. We are trying hard to live in the moment. To be authentic in our leadership and life. We invest in ourselves and even more in our children. For a better future. And a better today.

No different for me.

Yet obligations and responsibilities rise. Bills to pay. Roles to fulfill. Perfect partner. Perfect parent. Perfect daughter or son. Perfect friend. Perfect leader. Oh and please don’t forget to be healthy. And beautiful. Make sure you get enough sleep. Walk the dog. Work out at least three times a week. Be supportive of your family, your friends, your team. Get better business results. Don’t forget those deadlines. Hit target. Contribute.

A meaningful life filled with joy and happiness. But how?

With not enough time to manage it all. Nor to be fully present all the time. More often than not, losing the overview. Because we are stuck in traffic. Or in a pointless meeting. With too many to do’s. Balancing too many responsibilities. Too many plates in the air. So we keep running. And smiling. In our shiny fast car. During our happy family Sunday brunch. Getting ready for Monday morning again. Chasing the dream.

The dream? Being who you really are. It’s a clincher if you ask me. Why is being who you really are so hard? It shouldn’t be. Right? Then why aren’t we?

Let me share with you the story of the jar of life. If you are not familiar with it, please take some time to watch the short video below (1:54). It’s a beautiful equation on how to make a limited number of meaningful choices to get the most out of your life. Or should I say, into your life. The rocks off course being the (for you!) most important things in life. Although there is one thing I disagree on, and that is that work can be a rock too if you consciously choose it to be one. For me it is.

My question for you, what are your rocks? And how free do you feel to let go of the need to be perfect at all levels? Just you being you. After all, there is only one jar. And one life.

For a better future. And a better today. The choice is yours.

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PS I have been told that one can always add a pint of beer at the end of filling the jar. Should be absorbed by the sand. Being a Belgian, I think this is wonderful news. Let’s have a drink soon!



About the author

Sofie Varrewaere is the founder of and a certified Marshall Goldsmith Stakeholder Centered Coach. After studying a Master in Psychological and Pedagogical Sciences, she ogled into the magical world of Recruitment, Selection and HR Services. Working for the world leader in HR, she has always been in an advisory role in relation to the larger goals of several multinational organizations. In 2013 she started her own company in International executive Coaching. Doing what she is good at, challenging others as well as herself